Pregnancy Loss & Infertility Struggles
Even in heartbreak, healing is possible.
When the path to parenthood doesn’t unfold as expected, the grief can feel both invisible and overwhelming. Our therapists provide a warm, understanding space to help you navigate loss, reconnect with yourself, and begin healing gently.
Available Therapists for Pregnancy Loss & Infertility Struggles
Offering In-Person or Virtually Counselling Services in the Calgary Area
Dani Spackman
Registered Psychologist
When Hope Turns Into Heartache
Few things prepare you for the emotional weight of pregnancy loss or infertility. You might feel as if the ground has shifted beneath you — one day filled with plans and anticipation, the next with emptiness, confusion, or grief that words can’t quite hold. You may notice yourself oscillating between numbness and overwhelming emotion, feeling isolated from those who don’t fully understand, or quietly avoiding conversations about babies and families.
Even simple moments — seeing a pregnancy announcement, walking past a children’s store, hearing a friend’s ultrasound story — can feel like emotional landmines. For some, infertility brings a cycle of hope and disappointment that feels relentless. For others, loss has created a void that’s hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t lived it. These experiences can also strain relationships, identity, faith, and self-worth.
You might find yourself wondering: Who am I if this dream doesn’t happen? Why did this happen to me? How do I move forward when my body and my heart feel like they’ve betrayed me? Therapy offers a place to hold those questions — and to begin finding ground again beneath them.
This Pain Isn’t Something You Have to Carry Alone
Grief after a pregnancy loss or infertility struggle doesn’t follow a timeline. Some days may feel manageable, while others bring waves of sadness, anger, or guilt. These emotional ups and downs are a normal response to profound loss. Many people describe feeling disconnected from their bodies, questioning their sense of identity, or wondering if they did something “wrong.”
It’s also common to feel invisible or misunderstood. Because pregnancy loss and infertility are often hidden topics, friends or family might not know what to say—or say the wrong thing. You may even find yourself withdrawing from social situations to protect your heart.
Therapy offers a space to be fully seen and validated, free from judgment or pressure to “move on.”
At Dragonfly, we understand that this pain is not something to simply get over—it’s something to gently move through, at your own pace.
How Therapy Helps You Heal Through Loss and Uncertainty
Our therapists at Dragonfly hold space for the complexity of this experience — the grief, the anger, the numbness, the hope that still flickers, and everything in between. There’s no right way to navigate loss or infertility, but there is a way to move through it with compassion and steadiness.
We Create Space for Every Emotion
You don’t have to censor yourself here. Whether you need to cry, sit in silence, or find words for the
unspoken parts of your story, therapy offers a place to lay it all down. We’ll help you name your feelings,
understand your triggers, and begin to release the self-blame that often accompanies loss or infertility.
We Help Calm the Nervous System and Body
Loss and reproductive trauma are not only emotional — they’re also physical. Your body remembers
the fear, the procedures, the waiting, the what-ifs. We use grounding, mindfulness, and gentle somatic
tools to help you reconnect with safety in your body and begin trusting it again, one step at a time.
We Explore Meaning, Identity, and Relationships
These experiences can shake the foundations of who you are and how you relate to others. You might feel distanced from your partner, friends, or community. Therapy offers space to explore these shifts, rebuild communication and connection, and redefine meaning in this chapter — whether or not parenthood unfolds the way you once imagined.
We Support You Through the Ongoing Journey
Healing isn’t linear. There may be cycles of grief that resurface with time — anniversaries, procedures, pregnancy news from others. We’ll help you find coping tools that feel nurturing, not forced, and gently rebuild hope and resilience in ways that honour your lived experience. Therapy becomes a steady anchor in a season that often feels unpredictable.
At Dragonfly, we recognize how isolating it can feel to carry loss or infertility in silence. Our therapists provide compassionate, trauma-informed care for women navigating these experiences, offering both emotional processing and practical grounding tools to support healing. We understand that grief and hope often coexist — and both deserve space to breathe.
Our approach is gentle, collaborative, and paced to what you need most. Whether you’re ready to talk about your experience, or you’re simply trying to stay afloat, you’ll be met with empathy, understanding, and the reassurance that you don’t have to go through this alone.
Book a free 20-minute phone consultation to learn how we can support you through this season. You don’t have to have the right words — just a willingness to start. We’ll walk with you as you navigate what healing can look like for you.
You May Be Interested in Therapy for Pregnancy Loss & Infertility
But Have Some Questions...
How can therapy help after pregnancy loss or infertility?
Therapy provides a safe, supportive space to process grief, anger, and guilt that often follow loss or infertility. At Dragonfly, we help you understand your emotions, rebuild trust in your body, and find ways to move forward with compassion and hope. Our goal isn’t to rush healing but to help you carry what’s happened with more peace and self-understanding.
What types of therapy are used for pregnancy loss and infertility?
Our therapists often use trauma-informed approaches, such as EMDR, mind-body techniques, and emotion-focused therapy, to support both emotional and physical healing. These approaches can help release stored trauma, regulate overwhelming emotions, and rebuild a sense of safety and connection within yourself and your relationships.
Is it normal to still feel grief long after a pregnancy loss?
Absolutely. Grief after a pregnancy loss doesn’t follow a clear timeline. Many people find that waves of sadness, anger, or longing can resurface months or even years later—especially around anniversaries or pregnancy-related milestones. These feelings are a natural part of healing, and therapy can help you understand and work through them without judgment.
Can I come to therapy if I’m still trying to get pregnant or going through fertility treatments?
Yes. Many clients begin therapy while navigating fertility challenges or ongoing treatments. Therapy can help you manage the emotional toll of waiting, uncertainty, and disappointment, while also supporting your mental health and relationships throughout the process.
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Therapy for Pregnancy Loss & Infertility in Calgary, AB
In Person and Online Sessions Available
1407 10 St SW, Calgary, AB T2R 1E7